Boy vs. Girl
In less than a week, I get to go and find out the sex of the baby. I am so nervous/excited to find out what God has blessed me with. It’s still hard to believe that I am about to be a mom. People often ask me what do I want. I always adamantly reply, “A BOY”. I go on to make people laugh by saying that if it’s a girl, I’m sending it back. This is my first and only baby (so serious). I will be a single mom. There are certain reasons why I want a boy. I look forward to haircuts and trousers. The idea of buying pocketbooks and lip gloss churns my stomach.
I grew up as a tomboy. Lord help me if I have to raise a little girl to be a lady. Not saying that I couldn’t do it, I’d just prefer not to do it. When you have a little girl, there are certain things that you have to do. For instance, from day one you have to tell them how beautiful they are. It doesn’t matter if they look like an alien or not. You have to begin building a little girl’s self-esteem from the moment that you first lay your eyes on them. That way, when they get old and they have that first crush or boyfriend and they think they can get the panties by telling them how beautiful they are, they fail. My little girl would always know that she is beautiful inside and out. That’s one thing that my mother never did with me. Maybe she didn’t realize the importance of it. I personally didn’t begin to love and appreciate myself until I got to be grown. In my opinion, a little girl needs to know this from day one. I want a boy because I want to be the one to teach him how to respect women.
Learning a lesson like that makes a different if it’s coming from a woman. Granted, I know my child will not be a child forever. Children grow into adults and as they experience adulthood, they formulate their own opinions and live their own lives. I know that I cannot protect my baby from everything. All I can do is pray for strength, love, and lead by example. There are some things that I realize that I cannot teach a boy to do. For instance, Peeing while standing up (I already talked to someone who will assist me with that if it is a boy). One thing that I can say is that this baby already has more people who are excited to meet him. He already has uncle’s and close friends that can’t wait to teach him some of life’s most valuable lessons from a male perspective. I can’t wait to meet this little soul that is physically causing so much hell on my body.